so there’s this decision you have to make when it happens. If someone your with, isn’t with you. If you have ever dated someone who has already been in love you realize the power of “first”. And if you’re interested i will relay to you what i have discovered.
There’s the first party: The two people fall in love.
The second party: The abrupt broken heart.
The third party: The person who tries their hand at being in a relationship with the half hearted person.
And when you realize this, that you are in a relationship with someone who is not exactly a “blank page”; someone who may still love someone else, or feel sadness or frustration when they hear their name, you have two choices. They are simple.
Lets say you pick option 2. You leave and cut off all connection with said person, and find a new person or just be alone. Easy.
Lets say you pick option 1. If you’re stupid like me, you will. Now option 1 breaks into a few other options. We will call this A, B, and C.
A) You stay, and express your jealousy. You plague your partner with your concerns and questions until they drown in the frustration and end the relationship.
B) You suppress your jealousy, you compete with the memory of the person your partner once loved. You may never win. You probably won’t. This process may take months, and you aren’t guaranteed to be any help, and after all this time said person may still think that you are as simple, plain, and ordinary as any other human because everyone else is secondary to initial “lover” and you have spent your time for nothing.
C) You absolutely wreck yourself. You come to terms with the fact that the relationship is not worth your time. But hey, who are you kidding? You aren’t going to leave and be alone again. So instead, you stay. You just don’t say anything. You try to forget that the person your with no longer has the capacity to feel any emotion toward anyone else. And you cope.
Of course, i may be wrong. But through the long and painstaking process of dating people who don’t care about me, this is what i have found. I’m certain i will lose followers over this and many people won’t read it. But that is all.